It's not unusual for children to be afraid on Halloween. The scary costumes, walking in the dark and glowing jack-o-lanterns can be creepy. To make Halloween enjoyable, it's important to respect your child's fear, without overindulging it.
\n \nAsk scary-looking neighbors to take off their masks so your child can see the real person behind the costume.
\nTrick or treat before dark or stay on well-lit streets with a flashlight.
\nOnly visit homes of people you know - the familiarity will be comforting.
\nAvoid scarily decorated homes.
\nWalk in a group - friends conquer fears!
\nCarve your own jack-o-lantern - this will make them seem less scary.
\nDon't let your child to miss out completely - giving in to fears helps them grow bigger. Anticipatory anxiety is almost always worse than the actual experience (especially if you follow these steps).
\nCostume clashes
\nDoes your child want to dress as a much-too-sexy witch or a punk-rocker carrying a real beer bottle and cigarettes? Have you heard, "It's what everyone is wearing and I'll be a loser if you don't let me wear it!"
\nResist the urge to give in to your child's pressure - it's a ploy! There will be many other kids dressed age-appropriately.
\nIt's a battle worth fighting - when you allow your child to dress in a costume that sends the wrong message (no matter how fictitious or funny the costume seems), you blur the boundaries about what behavior is acceptable to you.
\nSupervision success
\nHas your 10-year-old asked to trick or treat with friends, with no parental supervision? What about your 12-year-old? How do you know the right time to allow this?
\n13 is the youngest age at which I recommend allowing unsupervised trick or treating. Halloween can be dangerous for the inexperienced. Children traveling - even in a group - may not know how to negotiate drunken teens, running across the street safely in the dark or unfriendly welcomes from homeowners or pets.
\nFrom 11 years old, allow a little independence by walking behind your group of kids to let them 'feel' independent, while still being there should they need you. Children under 11 should be fully supervised.
\nSugar shock
\nYour successful little trick or treater comes home with a hugepile of candy and begins digging in immediately.
\n"Stop! You can't eat all that candy."
\n"Why not?" responds your little angel. "It's mine; I want to eat it!"
\nWhat is the best way to manage a year's supply of sweets to avoid weight gain, sugar overload, and a bad case of "it's mine; I'll do what I want!"?
\nSort through the bag, throwing out unwrapped pieces and any candy your child doesn't like.
\nAllow your child to eat several pieces of candy on Halloween night and then take the bag away.
\nAllow one or two small pieces a day (maximum) in place of your child's regular 'junk food' snack. Candy should not replace a healthy snack, but can be a small addition to it.
\nAfter a few weeks, it is likely that the novelty will wear off and you will be able to gradually stop doling out Halloween candy as a snack.
\nResist the urge to use it (or any food) as a reward for good behavior.
\nDr. Susan Bartell is America's #1 Family Psychologist . Her latest book is The Top 50 Questions Kids Ask. You can learn more about Dr. Bartell at www.drsusanbartell.com.
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